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Are You a Writer?

by M.R. Goodhew

I recently found myself exploring the idea of what makes a writer a writer, but more importantly what is a writer that doesn’t write?

A friend of mine keeps calling themselves a writer, but they never write a word. I am somewhat offended, because I am a writer.

My aim with this blog post is to inspire the would-be writer to do what they love, simply because they will so enjoy doing it.

But first let’s explore why it is that some of you might not be writing.

Here Is the Conclusion I Came To:

First of all, if you don’t write anything, then you’re not a writer, because a writer writes!

You may once have been a writer, but if you’re not writing, then you’re not producing anything and you’ve quit.

I know it sounds harsh, but that’s the reality of it.

I felt compelled to write this blog post because I know someone who used to be an amazing writer, but now they don’t spend an ounce of their time at the task. They often talk about the business of writing, but are producing nothing. They waste so many hours of precious time that they could be writing just talking about it. It’s absolutely heartbreaking.

If you are like this person then you have a ton of excuses as to the reason you’re not able to write at all right now, and most of them are most likely true and valid. Like the following:

  • You work and then have too many tasks to attend to when you get home.
  • By the time you finish dinner you’re too exhausted to do anything but go to bed.
  • You cannot find a quiet place to focus or just gather your thoughts. Or your significant other will not give you any space to be alone and write.
  • You have a list a mile long of things to do that you are sure you will never have the time to get to all of them, this leaves no time left for something as fanciful as writing. Get real.
  • You aren’t sure how you want to start your book, or how you are going to get back into a book you have already started to write.
  • You don’t have the equipment you need to get started.
  • You can’t realistically devote the time it would take to write your book because there simply aren’t enough hours in the day. 
  • You have to spend some time researching some things first.
  • You want to mull over your ideas before you write anything down.
  • You just can’t get into the right frame of mind on demand.

 

It’s certainly not about whether or not you’re good enough to write, because you’ll never be the best at writing that you could be. No one will, there is always room for improvement. But all of your reasons for not writing, whatever they are, are still probably good ones.

Unfortunately they are just excuses, because if you really wanted to do a certain thing, you would make the time to do it. There would be nothing in the world that could stop you, or should, if you have your heart set on being a writer. What you may lack is determination, commitment, dedication, or healthy relationships.  But, there are things that writers do that make them the writers they are, and you can do them too.

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What Makes The Difference

If something is stopping you from becoming the writer you want to be, then change it.

In response to the very valid excuses listed in the section above, I have created a list of alternate realities for writers that write.

  • Almost all writers have day jobs, and they still manage to produce some writing. Why can’t you? Writers make the time to practice what they love, writing.
  • If eating dinner exhausts you then you are eating too much, or too fast, or you need to get your body moving not long after your meal. Just like the fact that you can eat smaller portions more slowly to get full, you can get off your butt to induce the energy it takes to get your mind moving again. It really is that simple. And don’t forget that consuming alcohol and then eating leads to passing out. If you’re a drinker, you might want to think about skipping happy-hour in order to have the energy to devote your time to something you might find more meaningful.
  • Writer’s have a special place they go to write. They insist on the time spent alone in that place in order for them to get any writing done. They go outside, they go to parks, coffee shops, closets, nooks, garages, sheds, bedrooms, spare rooms, bathrooms, wherever they can find, because writing, to them, is that important.
  • It is unacceptable for another person to require your attention 100% of the time. Writer’s need their space and set their boundaries accordingly.
  • There is always time to pursue the passion for writing, because you just finally decide to make the time and you make sacrifices for it, and that’s the way it is if you are a writer.
  • Writer’s write. It is not always what they would like to write that they’re busy at. Writer’s write all the time to hone their skill and keep their creativity flowing. It’s called practice. They write about the weather, they journal about their day, they write poetry, practice with writer’s prompts, they use visual aids, they brainstorm ideas and write those down too. They are busy at the business of writing and therefore always improving their skill.
  • All a writer needs is a pencil, a pen, or something that will make marks and the world can be their canvas. Walls, cement, napkins, paper sacks, wood, whatever will accept the words they need to write will do. A writer writes.
  • A writer loves the act of writing and sacrifices other things in order to do it, often what they sacrifice is sleep.
  • Writer’s make a separate schedule to do their research. They not only research their ideas, they research their craft, to improve their writing skills. 
  • Writer’s brainstorm the ideas they are mulling over and write them down. Sometimes splitting them into a layout that serves as their writing template.
  • Writer’s aren’t always in the mood to write and much of what they write is crap. The important thing is that they are exercising their skill and getting better at their craft by showing up to practice it. They will write about whatever comes to mind just to get some words on paper and call it good. Writing is writing, whatever you write about. A writer knows that the book they are writing is just a draft, and probably the first draft, so it will suck anyway. There will be plenty of future sessions spent editing their work, and polishing their previous writing.

 

Know that nothing will change unless you go about the task of making it change. A person can talk about the way things ought to be for miles and get nowhere if no real action is taken.

The non-writer should commit themselves to writing and dedicate time to it on a regular basis if they want to be a writer. The goal is not out of your reach, but the tomorrow your waiting for will never be here, so do yourself the favor of starting today.


Look for my next post which dives into how you can create the time to write, and methods I use to get the words out when I’m having difficulty. You might find the post extremely helpful if you find yourself struggling to write.

Don’t get discouraged, for those of you who aren’t writing yet, you are a writer waiting to happen.

What do you think would help get someone back into the writing habit?

Cover Reveals: Bold & Exciting

Michelle Rene Goodhew: illustrated book covers designed for author Susan Lattwein.

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Arafura – Blood, the Wet and Tears: Nobody said the build-up would be easy. No body …

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Arafura – Unfinished Business: Love is patient. Love is kind. Sometimes love is explosive.


I started this project with the second novel first and was asked later to redesign the first cover in the series. I began with energy and excitement because I knew I was going to try something different in my way of illustrating. Susan had requested a naval ship on the cover dressed in party lights, and this was a romance novel. How was I going to bring her story forward with these beginning ideas? And then I had a great idea, I would bring attention to the intensity of her novel through a bold play on color and my use of line.

As Susan had put it, “It’s not easy explaining what you want on a cover when you’re not sure yourself, let alone to someone on the other side of the earth, via email and not over a cup of coffee with the advantage of waving your arms around to get your point across …”


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Working on the ‘Arafura’ books has been full of rewards. The sunset was a new venture that I started with a wax base for texture. I have never constructed a painting this way and thought it was vibrant and captured the color I was looking for. Susan responded with a request to give the clouds more definition and I’m so grateful she did. The final result is striking compared to my first draft. This is a great new style for me and I look forward to trying it again.

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I guess I had a good vision of the ship from nearly the beginning. I had started with a side profile and then Susan recommended the front view of the ship hoping for a more ominous feeling. I ran with that and had a clear Idea of how I wanted the colors to play on the surface of the steel. My intention was to have a bit of an abstract feel in the final piece. I thought it would allow me to really bring those bold colors forward, and I think I managed that in the end. Putting the lights on the ship was tedious but satisfying because each one just seemed to spring to life with a little glow. It was the first time I have ever attempted party lights and my technique proved successful. Joy!

I love the energy I have had while putting this together. Susan has been an amazing author to work with, she has a delightful personality with an edge of humor that really is a great combination to collaborate with. I was hoping to mirror Susan’s wit, the charm she displays in her storytelling, as well as the stories vivid depth. I hope I did it justice.


Here’s what Susan has to say about her books…

“The cover briefs were tricky to explain because I’m still not exactly sure which genre ‘Arafura – Blood, the Wet and Tears’ and the sequel ‘Arafura – Unfinished Business’ belong to. Romantic suspense/comedy/drama/action/?”


Here is her description for the first book in the Arafura series:

“Sensible schoolteacher Kat is planning to marry when her long-term fiancé finds the time. When the mysterious and damaged Adam arrives in town, Kat is jolted well out of her comfort zone. Despite her loyal intentions, a dead body and enough pre-monsoonal weather to strangle a Kat, she must wrestle with an instant attraction that is emotionally risky and absolutely, definitely fraught.”


The storyline of “Arafura – Unfinished Business” will be published by the end of October this year.

If you’re interested, Arafura – Blood, the Wet and Tears can be purchased from Amazon, or Smashwords. It’s also available at Smashwords’ global network of on-line retailers, Barnes and Noble, Apple, Angus and Robertson, Collins, Kobo, FlipKart etc.Arafura will appeal to female and male readers who enjoy quirky, witty suspense with dark edges.

Michelle Rene Goodhew
Illustrator


Blessed Are The Weird People

wpid-IMG_23632253907185.jpegSo inspired by others. People never cease to amaze me with their uniqueness, curiosity, creativity, and enthusiasm for what they are passionate about.

I love the experience of witnessing someone’s eye’s light up. There are just some basic human behaviors that are so beautiful. Each of us are so amazing in our own way. Our spirit shines when we allow it.

We are blessed with an innate artist quality, all of us. It’s that we create the life that we live every second. Every word we speak is magic. Our perception of our experience is only true because we believe it, and we can change that perception at will.

Through our expression of any kind we are artists. We tell a story with our emotions. We love, we laugh, we cry, we hope, and we have faith. We are so humble and at the same time outstandingly strong. Our will drives our dreams and our souls sing through every wavelength.

Such beauty and grace we possess… and also such darkness. We are our own worst enemies. We sadly carry our own demons. We are an enchanting creature truly.

We are a blessing.

We are the Muse.

                                     Michelle René

Our Gift

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I am no expert, and most of the time I find myself preaching more than practicing. Nevertheless, there are some lessons I will always be relearning, and I felt like sharing.

When it comes to relationships, typically, we do not get what we are wanting because we are not looking for a partner that can meet our needs. Some of us are attracted to personality qualities that we lack or want to explore. Others are seeking to correct previous relationship flaws by reliving them with similar personality types.

If we stop choosing to be in relationships where we expect or hope that our partner will one day learn, grow, adapt, or change to meet our needs…and try to adopt the view that it is our own expectation, and our own desires that we project onto the people in our lives that brings us all the grief ….. than we might start to allow for love.

It is no-one else’s fault that we are not getting what we want. It is our own responsibility to care for our needs by accepting things and people for what and who they are. Allowing ourselves to be available for what we are truly looking for in a relationship requires that we are genuine, that we are clear on what we really want, that we don’t pretend to be anything other than our genuine self, and that we don’t expect anyone to be anything more than who they genuinely are.

I think that true love is a selfless thing. That in order to give or feel true love we have to let go of our expectation and allow ourselves to see and experience the love that is possible through acceptance. We are always free to change our minds. We are free to choose who to love and how to love. In fact, our own actions are the only thing we can, most times control.

We are responsible if we do not feel we are getting what we want, or think we deserve from our relationships, because we choose them. Everyone else is innocent in that they do not owe us anything, that they are gifts of grace because they offer us lessons to become better people.

Michelle René